There Is No Normal

I want to start off by saying, there is no right way to react to being raped. I have been receiving a number of messages from people asking if the way they are feeling is normal? And the answer is yes. Everyone reacts uniquely to rape. There is no right or wrong way to feel….

5 Myths About Rape

Since my attack it has become very apparent that everyone believes themselves to be experts in the field of rape. I have found that I am frequently hearing and reading a number of comments that are simply untrue. Please, don’t get me wrong, I understand that I am by no means an expert, but some of the statements…

Do They Have Any Idea?

The other day I received a message from a young girl who had a story to tell and this girls story just happened to be incredibly sad. At the age of 13 she was raped. She was brutally attacked by one of her school teachers. Her attack was one of such violence she was hospitalised after being left ripped, bloody…

Who’s Fault is it? The Rapist or The Raped?

Our society is one where rape has become normalised. We live in a society where rape is no longer acknowledged. It is not unusual to wake up the morning after, in a strangers bed with no recollection of what went on the night before or to take back a fellow drunk individual to your house and…

Completely Exposed

I remember that morning sat in a police station in a huge empty room, staring. Just staring blankly into space. I remember a police officer walking in and sitting himself in front of me. He talks and I just keep on staring. Its half 5 in the morning. I have just been raped. Nothing is making sense. But it only…

Taking Back Control… The Wrong Way

Looking back at the days that followed my attack is hard. There doesn’t seem to be a lot to remember and everything that I do remember is caught up in a tangled web of confusion. But one thing I faced is clear. It may not have been clear all those months ago but it definitely is now…….

Is Silence the Answer?

Looking back at the minutes following my rape I have come to realise how lucky I was. How lucky I was to have someone there to answer the two hardest questions I think I have ever been faced with. What just happened? And what do I do now? If I did not have someone there to…

A Letter To My Rapist

Dear my rapist, This is not a letter that I ever believed I would find myself writing. You never know what life is going to throw at you but I can honestly say that this, this was the last thing I thought I would have to tackle. But yet here I am, and its you that has…

4 Things I Wish I Could Tell People About Life After Rape

Saying that living life as a rape victim is difficult would be a huge understatement (life after my rape is easily the hardest thing I have ever had to tackle). I can’t speak for everyone, but I have found that talking about my rape with those closest to me feels almost impossible. I just can’t seem to string together the…

My Story

I can definitely say that the decision to write this blog post was not an easy one. I have found that I have been bombarded with waves of dread and fear that have resulted in many half finished blog posts being abandoned in the trash. But finally, after many hours of self doubt and procrastination, I have plucked up the…

Taking the Plunge

After much self doubt (and more deleted blog posts than I care to think about) I have finally decided to take the plunge, put all my fears aside and begin my blog. There’s no easy or polite way to introduce you into the subject of this blog so I’m just going to say it…rape. Yes, you read that…